5 Secrets of Effective Communicative Skills

Hi there..! As we all know, it is important to have a good communicative skills. But do you know how is it like?.. some of us who had enough self-confidence.., we might think.. "as long as people do listen to me.., I don't need to know all those" nahh.. that is not right. sometimes our speech could be misunderstood by the listener...why? because...we are lack of good communicative skills.

Here, we are giving 5 secret of effective communicative skills which suggested by Benjamin from his blog, peacefulprosperity.com

Enjoy reading our blog...! ;')

1. Feel the feelings you want to convey:  If you want someone to feel a certain way… feel that way in their presence.  Brilliant Hypnotist and NLP trainer, Jamie Smart, likes to quote the classic hypnotic advice “Go there first”.  If you want to make people happy… you have to be happy yourself.  Needless to say, getting pissed off at the amount of angry people in the world doesn’t help    We all tend to love a passionate speaker.  To develop this tendency in yourself… ask yourself  "How can I more completely experience the emotions I want my audience to experience?"
2. Match the energy/intensity/emotion of the audience:  Another way to phrase this is… avoid ‘overdoing it’.  If you try to take someone from relative disinterest to mind blowing excitement all at once… it’s like trying to leap over the Grand Canyon… That’s quite a jump!  If, however, you start with mild curiosity… and gradually build your way up to interest… then go for a little excitement… and then turn the excitement up a little more… you can easily see how someone can incrementally go from disinterest to mind blowing excitement in a relatively short period of time.  Your question for yourself is “How can I meet people where they are in order to lead them where I want them to go?“
3. Use as many mediums of communication as possible:  Take some time to pay attention to how you sound.  Play with it some.  Learn to love it.  Do the same with how you look.  Tweak your appearance.  Learn to love it… particularly the ‘imperfections’.  Consider the words you tend to use.  What words could work even better?  With which groups of people?  Play with words.  Learn to love language.  Your question for yourself is “How can I add more dimensions of communication to my message?“
4. Let go of resistance:  Tightening up communicates fear and discomfort… which usually isn’t what we want to communicate.  It also distorts any remaining portion of your intended message.  On the other hand, when you really relax… the communication starts to flow.  People will get an idea of where you are and where you are going just from being in your presence… and the words you add are just a bonus.  After working with specific dimensions of communication, it is always important to relax and let them flow, naturally.  Your question for yourself is “How can I relax even more to let my message flow even more effectively?“
5. Allow people to do it themselves:  This goes hand in hand with the second secret.  If you try to force people in a given direction… they will resist.  When you are ‘pushy’ with people… they push back.  If you open an exciting doorway for them… they will get excited, do what ever they can to walk through the doorway, and they will tell their friends about it later.  The question you want to ask yourself is:  “How will I help this person recognize how much they love this idea?“